I just heard a report on the evening news about a single mother who complained enough about the father/daughter dance at her child’s school that she got it banned.
Wait, I’m not.
Are we creating survivors of our children—are we empowering them to overcome the hardships they may face in life—or are we coddling them against things that might sting a little at the time, but will ultimately teach them valuable lessons?
I can surely sympathize with this woman.
She’s hurting for her daughter and hoping to take that hurt away, but to do so, she took away a thing of joy to many others. The world just shouldn’t work that way. It doesn’t work that way, and we can’t give our children the false impression otherwise.
We have them for 18 short years, and in that time, we’ve got to love, protect—and, sure, maybe spoil ’em a teeny bit—but ultimately our job is to prepare our children for life.
We need to guide them to become independent and capable adults: helping them develop an inner strength goes hand-in-hand with that goal.
Quite often, life is unfair.
Quite often, it’s messy and it makes our hearts ache.
Quite often, Little Suzy Yahoo has something Little Sarah Sweetie doesn’t, and Sarah Sweetie has to learn to persevere. She will be stronger for it. She will have character.
What is the lesson that little girl would learn, you ask?
I’m not sure.
Maybe it’s that even though her dad’s not present—for whatever unfortunate reason—there are men in her life who love her and can step in.
Or maybe it’s that while she may be disappointed that she won’t attend this particular event, she can spend some special time with her loving mom doing something else instead.
I’m sure everyone wishes this little one had a daddy to escort her. I certainly do, but this is the hand she’s been dealt, and her mom needs to help her play it with strength and grace.
What do you think, my friends?